3 Is a Charm (Part 1)

If you’re currently or have ever been in a relationship then you know that the flame can blow out eventually, if the window (of opportunity) is open long enough. This happens because life becomes repetitious for most. How many of us park generally in the same spot at work (not good), eat/ drink the same things daily or are intimate with our partners in the same way every time. Repetition is good for forming great habits to achieve great results with certain things, but not for anything else.

In a relationship we have to be 3 people. For my male counterparts we must be the Husband, the “NEW” boyfriend, and the side dude. We have to play these 3 roles in order to maintain a happy, healthy relationship and to keep that flame lit bright.

The husband which is defined as “the male head of a household: one who orders the economics of a family” has the primary role to provide and protect. For this reason alone is why some men just aren’t ready for marriage. Providing financial support is major in the role of the “Husband” which should be known by all and doesn’t need much written on it.

The “New” boyfriend on the other hand is defined as “a favorite male companion or sweetheart”. Most people that have gone through the beginning stages of a relationship tend to view everything as perfect, because of such things as intriguing conversations, gifts or just enjoying their company without doing anything at all. I always tell people that you want to figure out what you don’t like about the person as soon as possible and then ask yourself can you grow to love those things. In this role you must allow your creativity shine by doing things that are out of the ordinary day to day routine. You have to sweep your woman off her feet by making beautiful memories. When guys ask me how? I explain to create one requires getting one or more of these three senses involved. Visual: Scenery, Sound: Music or Nature, Taste: New Cuisine. Just make it special.

The “side dude” is not defined in any dictionary; yet we all know what his role entails.
The bottom line is that at a minimum; you must do the same things you did to get the person your with to keep them. I wrote this for the men but this last statement should be applied to the ladies as well.